On being better husband

Bob was jittery. He and his wife Martha were only occupants
of their rented home. Always irritated Martha was a pain to
be with. He in spite of all his efforts could not understand
what his wife Martha wants of him. Bob was handsome. He had
a good job. And he was fulfilling all her material needs.

But still Martha was not the person she was used to be.

Bob decided to seek professional help.

But one need not go that far. Bob could have avoided his own
problem had he been little more aware of Martha’s needs.
Though all her material needs were satisfied there was craving
for gentle attention, companionship in Martha, which was
somewhat missing in their six year old marriage.

Like Bob and Martha many of us locked ourselves into a
relationship which is far from satisfying.

But with little knowledge and effort this can be changed.
A man can fulfill an woman’s heartfelt needs by understanding
nature of women and what an woman wants from a relationship.

Good relationship is the one of the most valuable possession
of a person, unless you enjoy good and satisfying relationship
with your companion (date/wife/girlfriend) you will find there
is a void in your life. And filling this void with something
else could be difficult if not impossible.

But frankly very few of us enjoy really satisfying relationship.
This should not convey the idea that today’s men and women are
not that serious to build the satisfying relationship. Or there
is less time available to all of us to devote for building good
relationship.

Here you are about to find the truth behind the scenario. What
one can do to improve the situation.

There are certain things which can improve your relationship.
But sadly we either do not aware of these or do not think these
can be of any help.

You, need to realize that you and your partner are two different
persons, you are from different backgrounds, your upbringing was
done differently and two of you being of different sex are
genetically programmed to think and communicate differently and
seek to fulfill different needs from a relationship.

Women are created by God a bit differently. To satisfy her and to
build a enriching and loving relationship men have to understand
her desires and give what she wants.

They want and crave for a man who is gentle, but capable of take
care of her, Who is kind enough and loves to please her. Confidence
is appreciated by women when it is not threatening to her.

Women love attention. Allocate at least 20 – 30 minutes for being
together. This can lead to a strong relationship. While together,
talk to her and listen to her opinions without being judgmental.

Give her some small surprise gifts like flower.

Avoid criticism like plague. Nobody, women or men enjoy being
criticized.

The above tips are just some examples. The bottom line is women
need love and attention. Men have to find time to pay attention
and discover ways to communicate love.

Now, I hope you are little more aware of the needs of women.
Your chance of success is very high if you just follow these
little things.

Dating and marriage are different games. Ask right
questions before marriage.